Here’s the letter I sent to the principal at my daughter Gracie’s school, Avon High, after she was subjected to an assembly led by a gay activist under the guise of anti-bullying. Please be aware that the principal called me personally and was very apologetic. For different reasons than mine, she also felt blind-sided by the true nature of this event and felt bad that she brought students to it. Quite honestly, I was blown away by the principal’s humility and concern. Though I regret this incident, I’m very thankful for her response. My letter:
I appreciate your dedication to serve our children, to make our school a safe environment, and to make our children better students. We are very thankful for you. It is with a sad heart that I write the rest of this letter.
My freshman daughter Grace attended a seminar today with Jamie Nabozny, and we were shocked to hear that she had to endure two hours of shameless gay activism on display. The advertisement that we received for the event said that it was an anti-bullying seminar, not a seminar about tolerance for the homosexual lifestyle. My wife and I are both appalled and outraged that ACS would subject our child to an assembly of this kind without informing us of its true nature. We are all for reinforcing the values of compassion and kindness, and we had hoped that this seminar would champion these virtues. As Christ followers, we believe in honor and respect, and therefore, encouraged Gracie to attend and support the event. However, after hearing Grace’s report, we feel tricked and victimized by the “bait and switch” nature of this event. It was a direct assault on the values that we have raised our daughter to embrace.
As Christ followers, we would never expect the school system to proselytize atheists for our religion, and yet, today hundreds of students were evangelized with a liberal worldview. Worse, Mr. Nabozny misrepresented true Christians by telling the students that it was a Christian boy whose belief system empowered him to be violent toward gays. If that’s true, this boy was a hypocrite and did not follow in his Savior’s footsteps who loved even his enemies, yet Mr. Nabozny presented this young man as an accurate representation of Bible-believing Christians. Further, he presented himself as a more authentic follower of Jesus, suggesting that acceptance of homosexuality, though clearly forbidden in the Bible, is more Christlike and truly loving. He did not leave room for the possibility that one might disagree with his worldview and still treat him with civility, but led his audience to believe that believing homosexuality is wrong is to be a bully; on par with bigotry and racism.
All this begs the question: Why is it OK to discriminate against Bible-believing Christians? If a Buddhist boy hurt Mr. Nabozny, would he say, “A Buddhist boy beat me up” and blame Buddhism? Or if his predator was black, would he dare say, “A black boy beat me up”? Surely he would be heavily chastised for such comments, and yet, to claim it was a Christian, though this boy did not represent true Christianity, is acceptable? Is there no room in a tolerant society to accept that some may not accept the liberal worldview? Though the intent of this letter is not to argue my morality, I must remind you that the majority of our country still believes that homosexuality is morally wrong and that the pro-gay movement is a direct assault on traditional family values.
Among our many concerns, we believe that after today Gracie’s Christian faith may now be seen in a negative light by her peers, though she’s been nothing but kind and compassionate to everyone. She’s known for her love for others and we’ve been overwhelmed by the encouraging comments peers and teachers have made about her character. You may benefit from knowing that we’re personal friends with Darrell Scott, the architect of “Rachel’s Challenge” [a program that Avon Central School uses], and our daughters see Rachel Scott, who died in the Columbine shootings, as a role model. Darrell has actually invited us to Colorado to spend time with him and visit Rachel’s grave.
Overall, Gracie’s experience at ACS has been a good one, and we don’t want to assume that you or the entire school system condones what happened today. Even so, attending this event was planned by the school, and we feel obligated to share our concerns. We also believe we would benefit from a personal meeting with you to discuss this.
Thank you for your time and thanks again for serving the youth in our community.